Building Self-Esteem In Your Child
Children don’t come with a manual!
Self-esteem is the value a child places on oneself. It is seeing oneself with positive characteristics. It is the feeling children have about all the things they see themselves to be or someone who will do well in the things that are important to them.
Children cannot be quickly injected with self-esteem. Many of the steps necessary for building a child’s self-esteem is ongoing and it is continually being refined as one progresses through life.
Parents play a crucial role in nurturing the development of their child’s self-confidence and self-esteem. As a parent, you have the greatest influence in shaping your children’s sense of self-esteem, positive outlook and a healthy view of themselves; you are their first and most important teacher.
Some Helpful Tips for Parents to Support the Development of Your Child’s Self-Esteem
- Teach your child to work towards a goal, and to have pride in their success. It is important to set achievable and realistic goals so your child experiences a sense of satisfaction with their accomplishments.
- Give them an opportunity to succeed.
- Encourage them to face challenges and take risks.
- Encourage them to say “NO” to negative pressures.
- Verbalize confidence in your child and their abilities. It is extremely important to give children support and approval.
- Be realistic in your expectations.
- Children who have confidence in themselves and their abilities will be more likely to lead happy and productive life.
- It is important for you to help your child discover their talents and abilities. (School, sports, music, drama, science, etc.). Once they do identify what they excel at, they need to value their strengths.
- Children need to know they are important. Show love and acceptance through your daily expressions of affection. Give lots of HUGS!
- Play, work and relax together. When children feel loved by their parents (i.e. the important people in their lives), they feel comfortable, safe and secure, and open to communication.
- Children will develop respect for themselves and for others if they learn that what they think, feel and do is important.
- Set a Good Example – have a POSITIVE and CHEERFUL ATTITUDE!